Patr ek Giver ke naam — Reciprocation par

Dear Giver,

Tum dete ho, kyunki dena tumhaari fitrat hai. Empathy tumhaare pyar ki bhasha hai, aur daya tumhaari aadat ban gayi hai. Lekin yaad rakhna - nadi bhi tab tak bahti hai jab baarish hoti hai.

Reciprocation koi len-den nahi hai. Yeh wo saans hai jo dene ke baad laut kar aati hai. Agar tum bas dete rahe, bina liye, toh ek din tumhara dena khud khali ho jaayega. Thakaan aa jayegi usse bhi jo kabhi tumhe khushi deta tha.

Kabhi-kabhi hum soch lete hain ki tyaag hi pyaar hai, ya over-giving hi strength hai. Par sach yeh hai - jab tum apne andar ka sab de dete ho, to tumhara giving bhi apni integrity khota hai. Phir tum dena band nahi karte pyaar ke liye, par dar se - ke kahin agar ruk gaye, toh tum kam achhe na lag jao.

Reciprocation tumhara fuel hai. Woh tumhe yaad dilata hai ki connection ek circle hai — ek tarfa rasta nahi. Woh tumhe yeh bhi samjhata hai ki tum bhi matter karte ho.

Agar tumhe koi lautata nahi, toh ek samay baad tumhara man thak jaata hai. Pehle chhoti chhoti baatein — thoda irritation, thodi thakaan, thodi udasi. Phir ek din body bol uthti hai — aur wo symptoms dikhaati hai jinko tum kabhi samjhe bina ignore karte rahe.

Reciprocation maangna ya lene dena selfish nahi hai. Yeh responsible giving hai. Yeh tumhaare empathy ko clean rakhta hai, aur tumhe over-giving ke chakkar se bachata hai.

Toh kabhi kabhi ruk jao. Saans lo. Kisi ko tumhe dene ka mauka do. Validation ke liye nahi, balki continuity ke liye.

Tum roshni tab tak jalakar nahi rakh sakte, jab tumhara oil khatam ho chuka ho.

Pyar aur sachchai ke saath,

Parita

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