The Most Dangerous Type of Narcissist: The Quiet Ones

Parita Sharma
Aug 9
3 min read

A most dangerous type of narcissist are the quiet ones.They will get silent when you fight.Making you feel alone.And when you don’t get closer you yell, cling, suffer like burning on fire.

The Weapon of Silence

This silence isn’t peace.

It’s punishment.

It’s power.

They vanish without leaving the room. They look at you but don’t see you. They hear you but don’t answer. The more you try, the further away they feel.

Somewhere in that space, you start replaying every moment, twisting the story until you believe the problem must be you.

The Loneliness Trap

In that silence, you start to panic. You feel the distance growing, and instead of them coming closer, you end up doing all the work.

You call.

You explain.

You beg.

You raise your voice.

You cling tighter.

And the more you try, the colder they get.

Soon, you’re burning inside — not from anger alone, but from the pain of feeling invisible to someone you’ve given your heart to. It’s a fire that consumes you while they watch without blinking.

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My Story

I can still see myself in the places where I cried.

My friends tried to show — I was blind.

They tried to tell — I was deaf.

How could I not be? I went to my psychiatrist, told him how miserable I was, ashamed for being so dramatic. Instead of assuring "it's not me" he increased my medication and called me emotionally unstable.

I believed him.

It wasn’t new — it began with my mother. Loud, clingy, demanding, high maintenance, always angry, dark skin, lean body, narcissistic attitudes. I learned early that I was too much, too sensitive, too dramatic.

So I saw a villain in me. And them? I saw God. Who else could rescue me from my own demons?

“Kitni gadhi thi mein!” I hated myself for staying with them — convinced they were protecting me from me.

Finally, thankfully… I started seeing.

I started listening. Not to them, but to me.

Why We Stay

People imagine that staying is weakness. It’s not that simple. You stay because you’ve been taught to doubt yourself more than you doubt them. You stay because there are moments when the ice melts and warmth comes back. You stay because leaving means shattering the illusion you’ve built your life on, destroying everything you think it's yours.

Sometimes, you stay because you believe they’re the only one who can save you from yourself.

Why It’s So Dangerous

This kind of cruelty doesn’t come with raised voices or broken plates. It comes with quiet — the kind that eats away at you from the inside out.

It convinces you that love is something you must earn. It convinces you that connection is a reward, not a right. It convinces you that the villain is always you. It convinces you that "you are nothing without them".